As some of you may know from previous posts, there is a woman by the name of Maggie Namjou who has been intent of creating havoc in my life. She began harassing John my fiance about 20 months ago (which was 8 months before we met) after he corresponded with her online and decided after 3 or 4 emails that she seemed a bit odd and not right for him. He politely discontinued all contact with her and wished her luck and thought that would be the end of it. As you know, if you’ve been following the drama that goes with Maggie it has been anything but the end of it.

For the last 20 months she has harassed first him and now me with unending emails and middle of the night phone calls. We still have voicemail messages where she alternated between crying and pleading to angry and hate filled in her endless attempts to create a response. She likes to claim in her emails that she just needed a listening ear, but he never took her calls and for months it became so bad that he had to turn off his answering machine. His friends and family couldn’t leave a message because it was constantly filled with the disturbing ramblings of Maggie. When I met John he immediately informed me of the barrage of unsolicited emails and calls that he was being bombarded with. He let me know that since he could not tell if a call from the U.S.A where I was living at the time was from me or from Vermont where Maggie Namjou lives that he would not be answering the phone as he didn’t want to have to speak directly with her. He thought that no response would cause her to lose interest and go away. That never happened.

When I came into his life, I was a bit put out by having to gauge how I could or couldn’t reach him by phone because of Maggie’s delusions of a nonexistent relationship versus my real and ongoing one with John. 

As is my way, I naively thought that a rational email to Maggie asking her to stop her calls and emails while citing her behavior as intrusive and unwelcome might shock her into moving on. Since she clearly is incapable of recognizing the error in what she continues to do, it has been a useless battle.

She turned her anger on me as I wrote in Bitterness & Lies after she began commenting on my blog. I wrote a post titled Bovvered after watching her reading my blog for months. When I wrote it, I did not name her, but rather let my readers know about the problem that existed in order to protect myself and them. It was only after she left a comment as Maggie, confirming what I had been saying that I introduced her formally by way of her name. As Maggie likes to create alias and contact people, I wanted to be sure she was not doing that with any of my readers and pretending to be me.  Believe me, I’ve tried multiple ways to shake her off, but she is like those burs that some people refer to as hitchhikers, she’s difficult to get rid of once she forms her attachment.

Until recently, her South Burlington, Vermont IP address that covers Williston, Vermont where she appears to live much of the year was showing up on my sitemeter several times a day.  After I sent her an email telling her that I could see her so denying she was on my site was senseless, she went to an anonymous proxy site so as to visit in disguise. Of course, this doesn’t work when one hits a site and leaves a message at the same time.

She claims now that if I remove the Bitterness & Lies post that she will leave us alone. However, based on the amount of times she has said the same in the past in her endless emails about never contacting us again...I believe this to be a total lie. Therefore in order to protect myself and my reputation...I’ll will not remove the posts that explain the frequent lies and comments Maggie likes to leave at all hours of the day and night.

I am growing weary of deleting the garbage she likes to leave around my blog and have decided to close comments until after I move to a new site and can moderate comments. I am so sorry that something special to me has been infected by the unceasing negativity and bitterness of this woman. 

She is quite malicious and as John said previously in his comment on Bitterness & Lies,Maggie Namjou is quite adept at trying to convince people that she is a victim.

Maggie Namjou is no victim...quite the opposite, she is all of the nasty things she accuses others of being and more.

I have been in email contact with some of the other people she has harassed in the past and I hope if nothing else when people meet this woman online in the future, if they do an online search they will realize that contact with Maggie Namjou may be the beginning of a “relationship” that will exist only in her mind and a contact they wish they’d never made.

I plan to post a few more pleasant posts in the next day or so which will hopefully wash away some of the negativity and ugliness that follows in the wake of contact with Maggie Namjou.

As I said, I’ll be closing my comment section for a while...and if you wish to reach me, please send me an email. I hope for the next week or so until I work out the moderation details you will continue to comment by way of email. My email address can be reached if you click the red letterbox in the top right corner of my main page or ebethharper at mac.com

Honestly...I could use a few good words...I’m really trying hard to maintain my sense of humor here and not allow myself to be bovvered.

Peace to you all this day as I search for some of my own.